My Routine as a Married Woman

Being married has its good and bad days.  I’m still very newly married, but I have learned so much about myself and my significant other.  We have FINALLY settled down after a hectic move and year.  We have some things down, but we still have some kinks to work out.  Check out my everyday routine and how its helping our communication and love life as a married couple. 

 

I usually have two routines so today I will start with my morning routine when I have to work.

0600:- Alarm goes off.  Yes I hit snooze a couple of times.   Roll around and moan for a bit, but then jump up and drink a glass of water.  Yes a glass of water.  This helps me replenish for the morning ahead and cleanse my body of all those deep sleep toxins ;). I also stretch for 3 minutes just to have a brand new start to my day.

0630- By this time I am kinda awake and have brushed my teeth and washed my face, and now I put on the coffee.  If I am in a hurry, I will do a Keurig cup, but if I have time, I use my new French Press.  

0645:  I have put my clothes on, my makeup, combed my hair, or put it up in a bun and headband and told myself in the mirror that I am a badass and I will make someone smile today.

0700: By this time I have the news on, looking at the weather and gazing into the television just to take in what had went on over night in the world.  I then make a smoothie or eat my oatmeal with my banana.  Take the dogs out, feed them, etc.  

0725: I am usually ready to head out the door, but I then go into the bedroom where my husband usually is, or if he has to work early were usually talking in the kitchen and saying our last few things to each other until we get home that night.  

0735: I kiss my husband goodbye, no matter if I am mad at him or angry, I still say I love you and we hug and off I go.  

0740: Before I drive out of the garage, I pray to God and ask for his blessing for a safe travel and for my husband to have a wonderful day.  I then put my car in drive and out I go.

0800-1700- WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK.  Sometime between there I have lunch, chat a bit with my patients and co-workers, they make me laugh, raise my endorphins, then I clock out and I am now trying to get out of nurse mode and into wifey mode.  This one sometimes is hard to get out of because if I had a bad day, a patient I was close to wasn’t doing so good, or I get chewed out by family, it takes me longer.  Driving home is usually my time to switch roles so I blare my music and just try to figure out what I am going to cook for dinner or what were gonna do when I get home. 

1730:  Walk through the door, I hear my husband upstairs watching tv or he is in his man cave doing something manly.  I find him and kiss him hello, and he then asks how my day was, if its bad, I usually say it was ok, but if it was really good, I say wonderful, and thanks for asking.  He then has finally learned that its best to give me a few minutes to myself to de-compress, put my bacteria infested scrubs in the wash, and get a snack.  He then comes up to ask me whats for dinner.  We talk and decide on a few things, but we always argue about food because I can eat anything and he can’t.  My husband is very picky.  

1900: Dinner.  We sit at the table 97% of the time, unless all our junk has been piled onto it for the past weeks and I haven’t been able to clean.  We then talk.  I have finally gotten him to turn the TV off and engage in our time.  This is usually our time to talk about whatever we need to.  After that, he asks (sometimes), “What can I help you with”.  Most of the time I say nothing because he just gets in the way.  Haha.  I love my husband, but sometimes its just best for myself to get it done.  We then turn on our favorite Netflix series and binge watch that until one of us is tired.  

2200: I am an early bird and like to go to sleep early and wake up early.  My husband IS NOT! We are still working on this, but its getting better.  Anyways, I usually tell him goodnight and love you and he will then feel bad and come to bed with me hehe.  But this is also my time to brush my teeth, wash my face, read a little bit of my book, then hit the sack.  I also tell myself I was a badass today and get ready for the next day…

 

2300-0800-SLEEEP! 

Having a routine and letting each other know when you need your me time is crucial in a marriage.  Sometimes my husband is just always there and I need to do something for me.  I find it hard because I feel bad and don’t want to hurt his feelings, but if I speak up, he will then tell me he needs his time too.  Communication is key, and if you start early on in your marriage, your life and marriage will be full of joy and happiness.  

 

Stay tuned for my routine as a married woman when I don’t have to go to work 🙂 

 

Things that make me happy!

Hi there! I hope your week is going smoothly and the work week is flying by for you! I wanted to write about the things that make me happy because its very hard when you have a busy schedule to seem to take the time to enjoy the things that truly make you happy.  Read along to see the things that make me happy.  Feel free to comment below your things that make you happy.

 

  1.  Painting my nails.  This is something I don’t do often.  Painting my own nails requires skill and concentration.  This makes me happy because I know I painted my own nails and it only cost me $5 a bottle instead of $25-$35 for a whole manicure.  Try this nail polish, its my favorite brand.
  2. Listening to music.  Music helps lift up the soul and you can sing as loud as you want and no one will judge.  Unless you live with multiple people, but then its just funny.  Pandora is my friend.
  3. Blogging.  Blogging has become a part of me that lets me vent and write about things I am feeling on that particular day.  If you haven’t started to blog yet, I highly suggest you do it!
  4. Cooking.  Whats better than cooking up some of your favorite foods and then indulging in all of its goodness created by you!  I am always trying new recipes and re-vamping my old ones.  This makes me and my tummy happy.  My husband is happy when I cook because that means I get less hangry.  🙂  Make some amazing waffles with this waffle iron.  My mom loves it!
  5. Fixing my hair.  I rarely have time to do this, but when I do, it makes me feel happy because it actually looks like I took the time to actually get decent for the day instead of looking like I just rolled out of bed and into the workplace. Hehe.
  6. Coffee. Try this french press, it makes smooth, luxurious coffee.  I’m addicted!
  7. Wine.
  8.  Decorating my house.  It makes me feel happy to know that I finally have a home of my own to decorate!
  9. Jogging.  This releases those wonderful things we call endorphins.  Its good for the soul and mind.
  10. Playing with my pets.  Who doesn’t like a little bit of pet therapy? I heard that petting a dog once a day helps with depression.
  11. Last but not least, socializing.  Being able to talk with friends and family is just something that makes you feel happy to be around so many amazing people that have been a part of your life!

That’s all I have for now.  Remember to be loving, smile often, and be kind to one another, you never know what someone is going through.

 

 

How do you love to spend your “me time”?

Think about that question for a minute.  Do you love your “me time”?  I know I do.  What do you do to focus on you? Here is a list of my top 10 ways I spend my “me time”.

  1. Take a nice hot bath with candles and soft music.  (this is probably my favorite to do because its soothing, relaxing, and I get to enjoy listening to the music or just lay there without any distractions).  Try these stress relief candles from bath and body works.  They work wonders!
  2. Read a book.  Why no get lost in a book and forget your own worries?  Reading not only makes you forget about your life, but it also helps you get smarter.  When you don’t know what a word means, look it up!  
    1. My current read is this.  Good read for ways to be a better adult. 🙂 
  3. Baking.  I bake and bake until I can bake anymore.  Concentrating on something I love to do, is really soothing for me.  What is your hobby?
  4. Binge watching my Netflix shows.  
  5. Organizing my closet or donating items I don’t need anymore.
  6. Going outside (on a sunny day) to enjoy the fresh crisp air and maybe walk a few blocks, or miles.  Every day is a new day for sight seeing! 
  7. Drink a nice cup of coffee and blog.  (what I am doing now)  
    1. I just got my first french press, and I love it! Get it here
  8. Meditating.  This helps me release my stressors and get back into daily life.  Letting go of things is hard to do, but with this, you get to think about it, then let it go. 
  9. Pinteresting.  I am constantly looking up new recipes to try, home decor ideas, even budget tips.  This is a good way to get a hold of things you’ve been wanting to try.
  10. Last but not least, sleep.  Sleeping is good when you are just cranky and need to re-charge! Try out this awesome oil diffuser.   I put a few drops of lavender in there at night and it relaxes me and helps me fall asleep faster!

Well those are my ways I spend my “me time”.  Leave a comment and tell me how you spend your time.  I’m always up for my ideas!

 

New Year, New You!

Good Morning lovelies!  Its 2018! Its a new year, new start kind of mind set.  Sorry it has taken me a long time to get back to blogging.  I had a crazy end of the year with traveling,  working, getting ready for graduate school, and meal prepping.  I am so glad to leave 2017 behind, even though it was the year I got married to my best friend.  Anyways, enough about me, lets focus on you.  What are the things you will be changing about yourself this year?  Your morning routine? Your daily motivations? Your eating habits?  I can keep going, but just reflect for a second and think about what you want to do to better yourself this year.  

OK, TIMES UP!  We’re some of the things you thought about was exercising? Paying off debt? Eating right? Spending more quality time on you? Well good, because thats what this blog is going to be about today.  Read along for a guide to a new start, new you. 

Lets start with good habits.  Last year was rough for many of us.  Some probably didn’t know what was going to happen next.  Some probably started eating poorly, not excercising as much, stopped talking with friends, etc.  Well here is a guide to help with getting you back into a healthier lifestyle.

  1.  Wake up early and go to sleep early.  Who doesn’t feel better when they get a good nights sleep?  I know I do.  Waking up early not only makes you feel better, but you can get a lot more done and reduce your stress level by making the most out of the hours of the day.  
  2. Once you get up, drink water.  I have this water bottle and it glows every morning reminding me to drink water.  This will help cleanse those toxins from your body and start the new day fresh.  
  3. You time.  Every morning when I wake up, I take 15-30 minutes for myself.  Whether that be to be mindful and motivate or just to do something for me and no one else.  I sometimes pick up a book and read a chapter, drink my coffee while watching my favorite talk show, or even just showering a little longer.  It helps to get ready for what the day will bring.  If you have a large family, that can be tough, but communicating with your significant other or other family members, can help you get that alone time you want and most importantly, need. 
  4. Socialize.  This is a big one.  I struggle with this one a lot because not only did I just move, but I am in a different stage of life than most of my friends.  And sometimes I just don’t want to get out.  I can be a home body sometimes, but I need that socialization time.  Meet a friend for coffee and just talk about things that you cant talk about with anyone else, go to the grocery store with someone else and see what ideas they have for meals, take walks with them, DO SOMETHING! Its healthy and the more you laugh, the longer you will stay happy.  
  5. Choose meals wisely.  This can be challenging because sometimes you don’t have time to cook, or cant get to the store enough to pick up the meals, or sometimes you just don’t have the money to buy all the healthy options they put out there.  (I hate how they say, “Eat healthy its better for you” then its 4.99 for a bundle of asparagus).  I just learn to work around it.  Healthier options can help reduce the risk of diseases and helps the soul.  
  6. Laugh, sing, dance, exercise.  Releasing the endorphins makes you feel 10x better than before your workout.  You are happier, feel energized, and really feel good about yourself.  I dance all the time in my house and both my husband and I are cracking up and rolling on the floor.  I sing loudly in the shower only because I want my husband to hear me and laugh.  He needs to release endorphins too.  Do something out of your comfort zone.  You will be surprised of the outcome.

 

Paying off Debt:

This is a HUGE topic.  I don’t want to go through the whole thing just yet, but I do want to give some advice that not only I have learned as an adult, but being married and having another mind to chime in on my spending habits. 🙂 

  1. Put away anything you can into your paying off credit card debt fund.  Any little bit helps and will add up in the long run.  
  2. Cancel any unnecessary subscriptions.  Now.  Right now.  If you have a gym membership, either use it or cancel it.  There are so many free ways to exercise these days, its crazy to me to pay for a gym membership.  If you’re never home, cancel your cable.  Netflix and Firestick TV are just as awesome.  You get the point.  Cancel the unnecessary things in your life.
  3. When you grocery shop, make a list.  Check it twice.  Then stick to it.  Studies show that people who make shopping list often never go off of it and always stick to their budget.  Im not saying not to buy that one tub of ice cream you need for those hard days, but plan for it.  
  4. Use a budget app.  I use the fudget app and its pretty simple and down to the point.  It helps me get all our finances in order.  
  5. My husband and I have agreed that Saturday is the day we spend our money.  We buy our groceries, any clothing/ books/ movies etc that we have been wanting and thats it.  After that day we wait till next Saturday.  It really works.  You tend to spend less and end up having a whole week to think about what you want and if you really need it! So pick a day, and have have some fun.
  6. Last but not least, if you don’t need to use your credit card, don’t.  Use your debit card or cash.  Its easier to say to yourself, I have the money in my pocket, give it to the cashier, then its gone.  Credit cards can be trouble and if you only do it to rack up points, it can hurt you in the long run.  

I hope this will help you get on a healthier and more happier lifestyle track.  Cheers to 2018! 

 

-militarydailylifelady

 

Stuck in the airport…

Hi everyone! I hope you had a wonderful holiday and got to spend it with your dearest loved ones.  Now that the Christmas is over, we are looking ahead into the new year.  Have you thought about what your new years resolutions are going to be? Have you determined what you want to change or what habits you want to break?  Well, as I sit in this airport and wait for my plane to board, I have been thinking about what I want to change about my life/self.  Its very refreshing to think about a new start, a new year, and a new life.  2017 has been so crazy and full of crazy life events.  I got married, my sister in law got married, hurricanes, earthquakes, wildfires, you name it, it happened in the year 2017.   Read along the list of things you could do to ring in the new year!

Goals for 2018:

  1.  Exercise more.  And by exercising more, I mean actually get up and go do it.  Don’t just sit there and say to yourself, “Oh im gonna work out in the morning”, then when you wake up don’t hit your snooze button! Get up and run!
  2. Hydrate! Kick those soda habits to the curb!  Water is perfect for boosting your energy level, getting rid of those migraines, and just plain healthy! I’m not saying to never drink a soda in your life again, but drink one maybe once or twice a week.  Water is yummy! Even throw some mio drops in there for some flavor.
  3. Meditate.
  4. Get on a good sleep schedule
  5. Eat healthier and choose your foods wisely!
  6. Get outdoors! Stop being a couch potato!
  7. Volunteer
  8. Do 1 random act of kindness a month for someone else
  9. Throw away your old clothing you do not want
  10. Those those old costume earring away
  11. Donate your old books
  12. Organize your pantry
  13. Pray

 

These are a few things I will be doing in the new year, so give it a try! I guarantee you will feel more energetic, positive and loving in the new year!

 

 

Trying to get into the holiday spirit?

Have you just been down in the dumps and can’t get into the holiday spirit?  Yeah, me too! It has taken me a really long time to get into the mood and usually I’m the first to play the music after thanksgiving and put on Christmas movies, but this year has really gotten me down.  Yesterday, I told myself I wanted to bake for the neighbors and my co-workers to help me get into the mood.  After I told my husband this, I received a really good sweet present from my next door neighbor.  I had a tin can full of chocolate fudge and butterscotch cookies.  After that moment, I knew I had to do something for the neighborhood.  So tonight, I baked snickerdoodles, sugar cookies, and rice krispies.  I had christmas music in the background, all the christmas lights were on and I had the little glimmer of my candles.  I have now gotten a little bit into the spirit.  My gifts aren’t all wrapped yet, but I have shipped some present to Texas and will wrap them when I get there.  But if you’re feeling down and want a pick me up, grab an apron, pour some wine, turn your oven onto 450 degrees and bust out that pinterest account full of your holiday baking ideas and start baking.  Even if its just for fun, this will help you get in the mood!

 

-Militarydailylifelady

 

 

Giving Back

I can’t explain to you the joy and happiness I feel when I do for other people.  It gives me a sense of fulfillment and allows me to feel better within.  This Christmas, I did a lot of volunteer work.  I adopted a military family in need.  I donated warm and fuzzy socks to elderly patients in Colorado to help keep them going in their rehabilitation center.  I also adopted a soldier over seas and provide support and encouragement every month.  Doing this makes me happy.  It just does.

When I moved across the US and left my family back in Texas, I wanted to really make my own identity up here.  My husband had lived here previously, but I was totally new to the area.  Once I got settled in, I decided I wanted to do some volunteer work.  Little did I know, I would turn into a volunteer addict! Being able to do for other people this Christmas has really helped me find a piece of identity within myself.  Read along to hear about my experience with my first Christmas volunteer project as a married woman!

 

In November I began my research.  I researched websites, things I could do in the community, and things I could do in the future (after Christmas).  I ran into a website that allowed me to adopt families and soldiers.  I read their mission and values and decided this was the organization I wanted to join.  I signed up and a couple days later I got to choose my solider for adoption.  I adopted him and immediately began my work.  I would go out to dollar stores, grocery stores, and my local military base and collect items I knew he would want/need.  I gathered things from toiletries to snacks to hot sauces to socks, from books to games, and much more.  I then brought them all home and researched on how I was going to send these across seas.  I discovered that I could do flat rate shipping from the USPS and decided to go that route.  I would package things up and decorate boxes and write little notes in there for him.  I never expect a reply, but when I get them, I am thrilled to hear they are ok and that he is thankful for what I do.  Like I said it brings me a sense of fulfillment.  I am now three months in with adopting him and things are going great! He wanted a coffee pot for Christmas and his favorite coffee and I sent him that plus more because I know their Christmas away from home won’t be the same.   Now on to my adopted family experience.

I adopted a family through the same organization I did for my soldier.  I decided to adopt a family of five from California.  This one particular family touched my soul in a way I didn’t expect.  They gave me a wish list of things for the kids, but parents expected nothing.  Being the good woman I am, I went a little overboard, but decided to get them something too.  I just sent this box on tuesday and I got a response from the Dad telling me how thankful he is to have me do this for them.  I will soon find out what the kids say about their awesome presents.

Last experience was pretty amazing as well.  When Christmas comes around, a lot of people think about the kids in need and want to give to them, which is great! This experience really opened my eyes to other age populations, the elderly.  Being a nurse, I have seen patients come into the hospital and having to stay for multiple months and only having the clothes they brought into the hospital on the first day which are only a few clothing items.  They also sometimes don’t have family members that are coming to visit or coming to bring them new clothes, or socks.  I have seen patients have dirty, thin, hole-y socks, and they don’t deserve that.  This brings tears to my eyes when I think about it.  So, I partnered up with this organization who helps brings new, warm, fuzzy, and printed socks to the elderly patients of a rehabilitation center.  This was a fun project for me because I even included my mom and grandparents in on this and I was able to provide 32 pairs of socks for these elderly patients.  I can’t even imagine how many other pairs of socks other people provided.  I really hope these patients will have warm and fuzzy feet.  Thanks to me, I know the patients of that rehab center will have nice warm feet.  I also threw in some mittens, beanies, christmas necklaces and other stuff for fun!

So my take home point for you readers are to allow yourself to get out there and volunteer.  It might be scary at first, but the feeling you get helping people is something I can’t really explain.  Just being able to give someone something that they cant provide for for themselves at the moment is awesome and fulfilling.  Also, don’t forget other age populations.  Kids are fun to buy for and I totally love doing that, but also look into age groups.  Get out there and volunteer!

 

***will update on the responses from my adopted family.

 

-military daily life lady