Being married has its good and bad days. I’m still very newly married, but I have learned so much about myself and my significant other. We have FINALLY settled down after a hectic move and year. We have some things down, but we still have some kinks to work out. Check out my everyday routine and how its helping our communication and love life as a married couple.
I usually have two routines so today I will start with my morning routine when I have to work.
0600:- Alarm goes off. Yes I hit snooze a couple of times. Roll around and moan for a bit, but then jump up and drink a glass of water. Yes a glass of water. This helps me replenish for the morning ahead and cleanse my body of all those deep sleep toxins ;). I also stretch for 3 minutes just to have a brand new start to my day.
0630- By this time I am kinda awake and have brushed my teeth and washed my face, and now I put on the coffee. If I am in a hurry, I will do a Keurig cup, but if I have time, I use my new French Press.
0645: I have put my clothes on, my makeup, combed my hair, or put it up in a bun and headband and told myself in the mirror that I am a badass and I will make someone smile today.
0700: By this time I have the news on, looking at the weather and gazing into the television just to take in what had went on over night in the world. I then make a smoothie or eat my oatmeal with my banana. Take the dogs out, feed them, etc.
0725: I am usually ready to head out the door, but I then go into the bedroom where my husband usually is, or if he has to work early were usually talking in the kitchen and saying our last few things to each other until we get home that night.
0735: I kiss my husband goodbye, no matter if I am mad at him or angry, I still say I love you and we hug and off I go.
0740: Before I drive out of the garage, I pray to God and ask for his blessing for a safe travel and for my husband to have a wonderful day. I then put my car in drive and out I go.
0800-1700- WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK. Sometime between there I have lunch, chat a bit with my patients and co-workers, they make me laugh, raise my endorphins, then I clock out and I am now trying to get out of nurse mode and into wifey mode. This one sometimes is hard to get out of because if I had a bad day, a patient I was close to wasn’t doing so good, or I get chewed out by family, it takes me longer. Driving home is usually my time to switch roles so I blare my music and just try to figure out what I am going to cook for dinner or what were gonna do when I get home.
1730: Walk through the door, I hear my husband upstairs watching tv or he is in his man cave doing something manly. I find him and kiss him hello, and he then asks how my day was, if its bad, I usually say it was ok, but if it was really good, I say wonderful, and thanks for asking. He then has finally learned that its best to give me a few minutes to myself to de-compress, put my bacteria infested scrubs in the wash, and get a snack. He then comes up to ask me whats for dinner. We talk and decide on a few things, but we always argue about food because I can eat anything and he can’t. My husband is very picky.
1900: Dinner. We sit at the table 97% of the time, unless all our junk has been piled onto it for the past weeks and I haven’t been able to clean. We then talk. I have finally gotten him to turn the TV off and engage in our time. This is usually our time to talk about whatever we need to. After that, he asks (sometimes), “What can I help you with”. Most of the time I say nothing because he just gets in the way. Haha. I love my husband, but sometimes its just best for myself to get it done. We then turn on our favorite Netflix series and binge watch that until one of us is tired.
2200: I am an early bird and like to go to sleep early and wake up early. My husband IS NOT! We are still working on this, but its getting better. Anyways, I usually tell him goodnight and love you and he will then feel bad and come to bed with me hehe. But this is also my time to brush my teeth, wash my face, read a little bit of my book, then hit the sack. I also tell myself I was a badass today and get ready for the next day…
Having a routine and letting each other know when you need your me time is crucial in a marriage. Sometimes my husband is just always there and I need to do something for me. I find it hard because I feel bad and don’t want to hurt his feelings, but if I speak up, he will then tell me he needs his time too. Communication is key, and if you start early on in your marriage, your life and marriage will be full of joy and happiness.
Stay tuned for my routine as a married woman when I don’t have to go to work 🙂